starting over is crap.

sigh. "starting over." it sounds simple doesn't? a common misconception that is glorified in romantic comedies. something goes wrong, the guy sweetly offers to start over, they exchange introductions and other personals, and the relationship starts over. the final song starts (something upbeat and hopeful) and the camera pans across the skyline of manhattan, while taxis zip in and out of intersections until the happy couple is a mere speck. viewers imagine them walking down the block, into the second chance at their relationship. what a lie. in actuality, the term "starting over" might as well be rephrased as "growing apart undramatically." that's what it is, isn't it? the memories and preconceived notions don't go away. you can't banish thoughts from your head by "starting over." human nature is to hold grudges, unfortunately. how about instead of fighting that, we work with it?

things are actually like that jennifer aniston and vince vaughn movie. the break up. people hated that movie. because they saw life for what it was, and i guess we don't want to pay $9.50 to see a movie about real life, huh? they break up. spend time apart. but you know what? that's an extremely happy movie. i would be thrilled if i was either of them, because they actually have a shot at making it work again. only time can heal grudges. if we have time to live life and change as people, then those preconceived notions can be erased. they don't count anymore. i think jennifer aniston was the most realistic and lucky girl. vince loved her. and they had time to figure it out. we all need time. none of this "starting over" in five seconds crap. it will fail.